Understanding Filipino Culture
If you are an Australian man in a relationship with a Filipina, the visa paperwork is only half the challenge. The other half is understanding a culture that works very differently from your own — where silence can mean tampo rather than indifference, where family obligation runs deeper than most Westerners expect, and where saving face shapes conversations you did not realise you were having.
These articles come from Jeff Harvie’s years of working with Australian-Filipina couples, and from living it. They are not academic. They are the things couples actually run into.
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Emotions and Communication
Tampo
The silent treatment with no argument attached, and how to handle it.
Maarte
Appearances, status and the daily selfie — what maarte really means.
Onion Skin
Pride bruises easily here. Why nobody says no, and how to raise a problem.
Mind Reading
She expects you to just know. Why unspoken expectations cause so many fights.
Family and Obligation
Filipina Single Mothers
Raising kids alone is common here. What it means if you are dating one.
Ate and Kuya
Older sister, older brother — and a quiet sign you have been accepted.
Looking to South East Asia
Why decent blokes are looking beyond Australia for a life partner.
Filipino Kids
Wanted, loved, and never too cool to play with the little ones.
Utang na Loob and Hiya
A debt of gratitude, and the shame of failing it. Both explained.
Everyday Life in the Philippines
PDA in the Philippines
Different rules apply in public. What is fine, and what is not.
Table Manners
Spoon and fork, sharing, and sounds you were raised to avoid.
Personal Grooming
Hair, skin and daily habits that take some getting used to.
About the Author
These articles come from Jeff Harvie, Registered Migration Agent (MARN 0959797) at Down Under Visa. Jeff first visited the Philippines in the 1990s, married his wife Mila from Camarines Sur, and has lived here permanently since 2010. Down Under Visa manages hundreds of Australian visa applications every year for Australian-Filipina couples.
Down Under Visa handles Partner Visas, Tourist Visas and Child Visas from the Philippines to Australia.